The topic of being afraid of failure is something that virtually everyone can relate to. Let’s be honest, who on earth enjoys to fail? Nobody right! Everyone fails in life no matter what.
It could be from you failing in your business, failing in school to even you fail to win a solo game in Fortnite when you have double digits kills.
Trust me, the third is the biggest failure lol
Elephants Compared to You & I
I came across this article the other day on how circuses train their elephants and made me think about how we could learn a thing or two from them.
So, the thing is, they take them when they are small and tie a heavy rope around their head. The baby elephant naturally tries to walk away but is held back by this rope. The elephant attempts to break free but quickly learns that it is not strong enough just yet. Naturally, it stays still.
As the elephant gets older and stronger the rope gets weaker but not weak enough for it for break lose.
It gets even worse from here
As the rope is placed over their heads, they no longer pull and push and attempt to break free because they know it is useless.
The elephant becomes so accustomed to being held down that it no longer attempts to break free. If only the baby elephant knew how strong they truly are. If only he realized that once they have matured, even a rope that is “secured” to a pole cannot detain them anymore
Then they would be no longer afraid of failure
Similar to elephants, we as humans gain a sense of fear whenever we feel resistance, we give up too early and once we reach the state of failure, we don’t attempt to break the threshold ever again.
But fear no more, here are four easy ways to change TODAY!
Everything Is Going to Be Okay
MY BIGGEST FEAR:
Before I start talking about how you can overcome this monster of fear, I want to talk about a few things that I fear.
One of my biggest fears as I enter the online business world is the fact that I was afraid to lose money. Quite frankly, who isn’t either?
Working to gain that capital needed and putting myself out there and losing it all is the biggest fear I face today.
I don’t know what I am capable until the day I actually put my skills to test and go for it. This is one of the reasons I created this blog. If baby Pedro, fresh out of wound were to be talking to present me I would have told myself that I would never be blogging. I would give myself a quick ring to let me know of that, but……….
That’s the funny thing of the future though, you never know what things you will get into where those things will take it.
This has been my method of coping with fear, I go along for the learning experience and what lies ahead and hopefully at the end of the rainbow, there will be gold.
But enough talking about me, let’s talk about how YOU can overcome the fear of failure with these 3 simple proven methods!!
1) State Your Fear
Whatever you are afraid of failing in, I want you to jot down something that you always wanted to do and why you haven’t done it
Now, when thinking about the why, were you ever afraid to fail in this area?
Many of you might say “yeah, Pedro I was afraid to fail”
I’m here to tell you that it is perfectly fine to be afraid.
The first thing you can think about is stating it and defining the ‘why.”
This is the most common excuse that we are given to ourselves when the factor of fear comes to mind. If you are having these thoughts, I’ll give you some examples of what you could say instead.
- How you feel: “This will be very difficult to reach”
- Your mind: “I’m not capable so there is no point in trying”
- What you should think instead: Acknowledge this fear, own up to it, and then confront it
Once you define the way you can move on to the step
2) Accept Your Fear of Failure
Okay, so now that you know what you fear and know that this monster living underneath your bed can be taken down, we now must accept it.
Accepting it is probably the hardest thing to do when overcoming fear. Fear takes away so much freedom and control over your life that it plain out makes your miserable. Imagine, you being able to do whatever your mind tells you because that is what you want to do without having regrets at the end of it.
Life would be pretty good huh?
It damns sure would be!
Once you accept this fear, start to think of fear in a different light.
Maybe instead of thinking of it in a pessimistic way, think of it in an optimistic way. We are afraid of failure because most of us associate it with the feeling of pain and suffering. What if you associate it with something different?
For example, let’s take our Lord and savior of the lightbulb, Thomas Edison. When asked by a reporter how it felt to fail over 9,999 times before even creating the lightbulb, Edison looked over with confidence drooling from his eyes with a smile and said that he didn’t fail. He just found 9,999 ways on how to not create a light bulb. Now that is what champions do.
So next time the fear of failure comes striking through your mind, think of it is one step closer to your goal and see the difference it can make in your life.
3) EMBRACE EMBRACE EMBRACE
Talking with one of my friends, he told me of the story of Michaelangelo, Italian sculptor. He was the creator of the Statue of David. I’m sure we all know that masterpiece by now. It is one of the most iconic marble statues to ever be created during that period.
People would ask “Yo, Michael, how in the hell did you make a masterpiece from such a crappy piece of marble.” Michelangelo responds that the perfect statue is always inside the giant piece of marble, all you had to do was remove the excess pieces.
What excess pieces do you need to remove from your identity to show the true badass you truly are. What is limiting you or holding you down that you need to remove and simply say “skkkkkkkrrrrtttttt.”
What is the bullshit excuse you are telling yourself you need to quit?
This is what happens when you go through a high volume of failure in a short amount of time. It gives you the opportunity to expose yourself and actually find what you need to remove from your self-identity.
At first, it may seem depressing not getting any results and having to repeat a process over and over again until you find a true winner, but something weird happens when you keep going and almost as luck strikes you, then you start becoming successful. You end up chipping away the excess and start to show the real potential inside of you!
Touching back on the previous point, start asking yourself how many times you failed today? Once you have a list of those failures, ask yourself, what did you learn from these mistakes?
This will create a feedback loop that enables you to see failure as negative feedback instead of this huge phenom of pain and suffering.
All you will have to do is review, change and try again
The more you do this the better you will get at it. Success tends to swing in your favor since you give yourself more attempts to actually try and make this work.
The Wolf of Wall Street is my favorite movie and to quote Mr. Belfort…..
The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.
This is so true. Success for you is possible and it is real. The only thing you have to do is realize that the fear of failing is normal and it is all part of the process. Start implementing these 3 methods now!
You are much stronger than you think you are and you have what it takes to succeed out in this world.
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